For years I've been fooled... If you've been to my house in the past you will know that our home is *almost* always picked up, I clean the toilet daily, the laundry is washed, folded & put away before lunch, the wood floors were swept and the tile was cleaned daily, I made all the beds every morning and picked up the toy room everynight. So.... the house was clean. I thought that that made me... sucessful... like I had earned the right to be a mother & a wife because I could 'do it all'. I thought that if someone stopped by and saw a mess in my house they would think... it's because she's a young mom or it's because they have too many kids or it's because she's just lazy.
WOW! I was wrong! Some of you who visit frequently may have noticed a little 'change' in our home... and you may have even thought it was because we have a 4th child and I just can't keep up anymore... But really... it's the best thing ever! My house now says that I played with my kids, I gave them my time, I enjoyed just being with them, I let them help with the housework... even if it took 4 x's as long and didn't get done the way I usually do it. It says I spent time with my husband instead and doing my 'nightly routine' of picking up and cleaning the house so it's spotless for the morning. It says I can't do it all... without sacrificing my family. And besides... when the boys are grown what are they going to remember... some dirtly laundry in the hall? I don't think so... but I do hope they remember all the fun we had and the love in our home.
Now... don't worry... I do still clean the toilets, sweep the floors, do the laundry, ect.... just not before I've given the best of me to my family. Which means I may not get it done everyday. :)